A LETTER TO YOUR INNER CHILD.

Have you ever asked yourself: What reaction would your inner child have if he saw you today? What would the scene be like if you met your 10-year-old self? Would he be proud of you? What reaction would your little self have if he saw you today? What reaction would you have when you saw yourself at that age? What would you say to yourself?

You may not have a physical encounter, but you can have a mental encounter with that version of yourself, because that inner child continues to live in you. Many times some strong emotions that arise in you today come from him or her. When there are traumatic or strong unhealed situations, they remain inside and come out from time to time as a defense mechanism. a mechanism that perhaps served you when you were a child, and that now, although you no longer need it, it has already been programmed and makes you act from fear or pre-established emotion. That is why it is so important to recognize your inner child, give him a voice, talk to him from time to time and ask him how he or she feels. Now that you have grown up and have the tools that you did not have as a child, it is your time to start reparenting yourself; be your own mother and father, take care of your inner child. That child who felt helpless, afraid, invalidated, rejected, abandoned, insufficient, betrayed, humiliated, alone... (Depending on what applies in each case). That child who did not have a safe place, who did not have the necessary tools to face the situations to which he was exposed. Only you can know how difficult each situation was for your inner child, no one but you would 100% understand it, only you know yourself perfectly and that is why you are the best person to start reparenting you. Your parents or the people who raised you didn't do more than they could, they dealt with their own situations as adults and at the same time they did what they could with you. If they didn't do more it's because they simply didn't have the tools, they didn't know, they weren't prepared or they couldn't even give that to themselves.. So don't cling to the idea that you had a bad time because of them, because of what they did or didn't do, let go of the blame and resentments. They are humans like you, living in that avatar for the first time, discovering how life works, doing what they can, just like you. Don't judge them, there is no time for regrets now.  You have grown up and became the person you needed, the one who would have taken good care of you, the one who knows about the physical and emotional needs that you lacked. Now is your time to be that emotional shelter for that child, that safe place that he needed so much, now it is you. You are his safe place.

Healing your relationship with your inner child, even if it is about issues from the past, will benefit and heal you today. Due to the direct relationship it has with the subconscious, what is untangled internally, even if it is from the past, is untangled in your present moment and generates an impact on your external world. Since the situations you repeat have their origin in the subconscious; if you transform or heal a pattern, the reality you project is also healed and transformed.

EXERCISE:

Now that you are aware of the power that your inner child has in your current life, I invite you to have a conversation with him. Write him a letter, talk to him as if he were your child, be kind to him, you yourself know what that child feels and is going through. Ask him how he or she is, how he or she feels, tell the child how your life is going, how everything has changed. Be very aware of the emotions that arise within you when you write that, or when you feel your child responding inside you, that will give you a compass about what you should work on.

Let that child know that he or she now counts on you, that you will always take care of him or her, now he or she can be safe and feel loved. That now he or she should only dedicate himself to being happy, that he or she can trust because you are in charge and you will always take care of him or her, now nothing will ever lack. While you do this exercise, feel how that energy that was stuck inside you comes out, let it flow, allow yourself to free yourself through catharsis. Cry if necessary, be aware of your emotions, do not repress them, let them be, recognize them, recognize everything that child felt, give an outlet to those emotions. You may feel anger, sadness, helplessness, fear, loneliness, pain... whatever you feel, let it be. Feel it to give it the opportunity to come out, to free yourself from it and transform that pain into power.

Once you feel all the emotions that you have stuck and recognize the child that lives in you, allow yourself to heal through acceptance and love. Accepting everything you experienced, without fighting with it, just accepting it and recognizing your inner child. Give your inner child a voice and love. Give yourself all the emotional support you know you needed back then.

Be the person you needed when you were a child.

Be you the one who heals you.

Trust in yourself and the power of love.

Love heals everything, transmutes everything.

I send you a hug of light.

Love, Mel.

Letter to my inner child, @melsaveyoursoul